The Ugly Truth...

As each of us travels along the road of destiny towards our passion and purpose, we are at some point forced to embrace a harsh reality. For some of us, it will take years to realize and even longer to accept. For most of us, even after recognizing and accepting this ugly truth, we go far into our adult lives before taking the appropriate actions. Some of us fail to see, or chose to ignore the reality and live with the residual effects for years, and years and years. The harsh reality that I speak of is that many of the people who walk with you as you travel towards your destiny do not wish you well.
It’s a very painful notion to accept when you genuinely care about the well-being of a person but the feeling is not reciprocal. All of the signs are there, but it’s much too difficult to believe. Instead, we spend countless hours trying to convince ourselves that our intuition is off. I mean, after all, why would someone be unhappy about another person’s success? Sadly, at some point we each have to come to terms with this: There are some who allow their own insecurities, regrets and unpursued dreams to rob them of their ability to wish the best for others.
I am still in the process of learning to remove these people from my space. It’s very difficult in the real world because for whatever reason, these people want to remain a part of your life. They wear the costume of friendship and masquerade their ill will. However, there comes the time when each of us is able to see through the deception. Far too often, we ignore the signs and opt instead to try and find the good in the relationship, despite the obvious negativity. I say that it is time we find the inner strength to “unfriend” those who do not add value and positive energy to our lives. It’s ok to wish them well from a distance and remain cordial, but those who you allow to be a part of your personal journey should have a genuine interest in seeing you live your purpose…without any concern about whether or not you reach your goal before they realize theirs.
A person who is supposed to be a part of your journey will be happy with each step forward you take. They will be proud of your successes and will have no problem telling you or others just how proud they are. When you face obstacles, these will be the people who help you find a way around them. They will encourage you when you can’t see the path to your purpose. They notice when you are off your game or slacking and quickly express their disappointment. They challenge you to be and give your best. These are the people who could be experiencing their biggest setbacks, but would still be ecstatic about your achievements. They care about you and hold your dreams close to their hearts. They pray for your strength, well-being and success as often as they pray for their own.
With the people who are supposed to be on your journey guarding the path, there simply isn’t enough room for those who don’t believe in, encourage, or support your dreams. Hanging on to them, only slows you down. Let them go. No apologies necessary. Find the courage to distance yourself from these people. Find the courage to move forward on your path with only those who truly matter beside you.